Losing my job over two years ago has turned out to be a huge blessing. Imagine that?
Swimming as a Single Mom
For nearly 15 years (yes, that coincides with the birth of my daughter), I was living on the ever-spinning hamster wheel. As a single, working mother – I was in constant survival mode. The wheel was always turning and I didn’t know how to slow down and take a breath. People often commented on how amazing I appeared (operative word) to be at managing my crazy, hectic life as a single woman. I would simply say – when you are thrown in the deep end, you swim.
The birth of my son 8 years ago (41 1/2 when he was born thank you very much) and a marriage that didn’t last long, and I was swimming in an even deeper pool. By no means should you infer that I don’t absolutely love being a mother. I do. Kids have added tremendous facets to my life – the highest highs and the lowest lows and so overwhelmed with love at times I think my heart does a Grinch grow.
On the Career Carousel
For 20 plus years, I enjoyed an amazing career in the financial services industry. I had so many challenging and fulfilling roles, managed fabulous people and earned a really good paycheck. A single mother who didn’t have to worry money – very rare indeed.
So when my career came to a screeching halt over two years ago – I found myself in unfamiliar territory. So much of my identity was wrapped up in my career and then – poof – it was gone. For a while, I looked around for a new job. And even though I had a seriously great reputation and loads of recommendations – nothing ever materialized. Having the benefit of 20/20 vision as I look back – it was all part of the bigger plan.
A View from the Ground
Eventually, I took on a sales role with a consulting firm. I genuinely liked the owner and the work he was doing in the small business community. Plus, I was already addicted to the freedom in my schedule and this was not a 9-5 gig. I joined the local Chambers and started to meet amazing entrepreneurs in the area.
When you work in corporate forever, you don’t realize there is an amazing world of smart, resilient, and courageous people out there running the life blood of our economy – small businesses. Try as I might, I couldn’t get anything “off the ground” with the consulting firm. Again, part of the bigger plan for sure. But unless I either won the lottery or met my “sugar daddy” – I had to find a way to generate revenue!!
While I was seeking the answer to the question around how I could make money, I started gorging on spiritual and/or self help books. You can read more about that journey on my website but suffice it to say I was undergoing tremendous changes. Focusing into the present moment was starting to pay off and day by day, I felt a little closer to answering the ever present question – What should I be doing with my life?
After two years of living by “Let Your Faith Be Bigger Than Your Fear” (and ignoring my daughters commands to GET A JOB MOM!), I finally knew what I wanted (another operative word) to do with my life. I had created a little check list along the way of my “must have’s” as it related to generating income. I needed freedom to be a present mom. I wanted to change peoples lives for the better. Oh, and I wanted to be a presenter. I am one of those rare individuals who loves, loves, loves to be in front of the room.
My mom says its because, as the youngest of 4, I had to stand on the chair to be heard.
Desire and Decision
Lo and behold at the end of last year, I found out that Danielle LaPorte, author of The Desire Map, was offering a licensing program to women (and men) all over the world. Becoming a Licensed Facilitator through Danielle meant that I could organize and facilitate Desire Map Level 1 Workshops, which are based on her best selling book. This book is really, really powerful and doing the work has honestly changed my daily decision making. For the better of course. The curriculum was already created by Danielle. And I could advertise my workshops on the website of an already very famous author. I guarantee she is getting more hits to her site than I am to mine.
My deep faith paid off!! I would have the freedom I deserve, the work changes peoples lives for the better, and I would be in front of the room! It took me all of two seconds to make that decision.
And then the panic set in. The boxes were all checked but now I needed to launch my own business. A website, a logo, content, social media marketing plans, and the list went on. Its taken nearly four months and a lot more faith but I am happy to be launching Discovering The Present You this week!!!
Discovering the Present You
As the cherry on top of a sundae from heaven – the process of starting my own business led to the decision to create my own workshop. A self-proclaimed book addict, I have spent an inordinate amount of time practicing all that I’ve learned. Most specifically on becoming PRESENT. I can not put into words how this practice has changed my life. Jon Kabat-Zinn, the founder of the Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction program at the University of Massachusetts Medical Center, refers to creating a “love affair with your life” through the practice of mindfulness. I don’t think there are better words to describe how I feel. I am having a love affair with my life. How sweet is that?
It was natural to want to share what I’ve learned with others and the new business was the launch pad. I am thrilled to be presenting my first mini workshop this weekend at my District Rotary Conference. Without exception, every person I talk with agrees that people are so desperate for the peace and joy that being present brings.
Invigorated and Thankful
Since I hail from this world, I will focus a lot in the corporate sector for mindfulness workshops. Companies are spending a lot of money on all sorts of health and wellness programs for their employees. Losing a few pounds can really make a person feel good. I get it. And it certainly could help you stay healthier longer. Slowing down a bit, deeply connecting with a friend, reveling in an amazing sunset, feeling immense gratitude for your warm bed, easing up on the constant chatter in your head will literally CHANGE YOUR LIFE.
The wait has been worth it and I am so thankful I didn’t cave. I am so incredibly blessed to have lost my job and, at the time, part of my identity. In the amazing words of Deepak Chopra in The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success – “Uncertainty is the fertile ground of pure creativity and freedom. Uncertainty is the same thing as tapping into the unknown in every moment of our existence. The unknown is the field of all possibilities.” I have so enjoyed this journey and can’t wait to see what happens next.