We are all born perfect, filled with “the light” of perfection. Pema Chodren, in The Places That Scare You, has you visualize the embodiment of your positive and loving energy. My visualization was indescribably beautiful – translucent air with millions of particles of diamond dust floating in it. Good right?
A Soft-Serve Twist
So we’re born with this perfection or light inside of us. As the days and years pass, through a myriad of moments and influences, we develop what can be called our Dark Side, our Shadow. My light is beautiful and bright. I see that in the way that I connect with others. My insane sense of humor that brings joy to any situation. The loving kindness I show to my kids or my family or a complete stranger.
I also have a deep, dark side. I can be incredibly mean to myself, I lose my cool every once and a while and scream very loudly.
I like to create a picture in my mind that represents what I am “working on” or thinking about. To that end, I visualize myself as a soft-serve twist. That swirl of vanilla and chocolate or, for me, the diamond dust light and an 87% cocoa dark side.
Embracing the Whole
But it’s who I am. It’s all of me. There is no way to have such goodness without darkness. The universe always has balance. As long as I’m embracing ALL that I am, and forgiving myself for the imperfections – I can live a full, honest, life that is slowly moving towards more moments of light each day. Without that darkness, I would never truly appreciate my light.
Admonition from Beezledorf
After I had read The Shadow Effect, by Deepak Chopra, Debbie Ford and Marianne Williamson, I talked with my kids about how we are born with perfect light and about our dark side. We even decided to name my son’s dark side Beezledorf. We thought that was a perfect name for how he behaves when he’s in a dark moment. Side note – We still haven’t come up with a name that scary enough for when I get in my dark place.
Not long after we had talked about our light and dark sides, I was having one of my dark moments. I had asked my son to do something a dozen plus times and I finally lost my cool. Can anyone relate to that? He looked at me and said “Mommy, none of your light is showing. Only your darkness.” How hysterical to have those words come back to me from my seven-year-old.
And how perfectly perfect that if we can step out and observe our behavior, even for a split second, we have a chance to get perspective, turn the tables and LET OUR LIGHT SHINE THROUGH!