About Sandy Duffy

Discovering My Self

There comes a point when you know, without doubt, without hesitation, that you cannot go back to your old life. You cannot be who you once were and also have a new life with new riches.”

– Julie McIntyre, Director of the Center for Earth Relations

For over 22 years I worked in the financial industry and enjoyed, by most measures, a wonderful career. I was also a single, working mother of two children, and I defined myself as such.

Sandy Duffy offers mindfulness workshops to businesses and individuals You might expect those roles to be totally fulfilling, but I often felt boring. I dreaded questionnaires that asked you to check the boxes for your hobbies or other interests. I didn’t have any boxes to check because there never seemed to be enough time for anything else in my life.

So, when I lost my corporate job nearly two years ago, I lost a huge part of my identity. By the grace of God, it wasn’t long before I was able to embrace the enormous change as a blessing.

Off the Hamster Wheel

Uncertainty is the fertile ground of pure creativity and freedom. Uncertainty is the same thing as tapping into the unknown in every moment of our existence. The unknown is the field of all possibilities.”

– Deepak Chopra, The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success

For many years, I had only enough time and energy to do the bare necessities: laundry, cooking, cleaning, helping my kids with their homework, and so on. But now that I was off that proverbial hamster wheel, I finally had the opportunity to slow down, loosen up, and begin the process of digging inward.

I had no idea how I was going to earn money but I adopted a new motto to live by, one that is still my favorite: “Let your faith be bigger than your fear.”

To that end, I started the practice of discovering my present self. I specifically choose the word “practice” because its definition – “repeated performance for the purpose of acquiring skill or proficiency” – allows for the reality of constant opportunities for improvement. Practice never makes perfect but we absolutely can start the process of changing the way we approach this blessing called life

The Taffy Machine

Time isn’t precious at all, because it is an illusion. What you perceive as precious is not time but the one point that is out of time: the Now. That is precious indeed. The more you are focused on time—past and future—the more you miss the Now, the most precious thing there is.”

– Eckhart Tolle, The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment

The first step was to turn off what I call “the taffy machine.” I remember seeing taffy being made at the candy store – the endless twirl of the machine that twisted the taffy back and forth and around again. That is how our minds work. Instead of focusing on the present moment, WHICH IS ALL THAT WE TRULY EVER HAVE IN THIS LIFE, I keep going over and over past events or thinking about things to come.

I desperately wanted to quiet my mind and connect again to that perfect spirit within me. To make the changes I was seeking, I needed to tap into the limitless knowledge available to me every second – knowledge that spans all of eternity, both past and present, to guide me going forward.

Focusing on The Present

Be happy in the moment, that’s enough. Each moment is all we need, not more.”

– Mother Teresa

So I started focusing into the present moment, becoming aware when the taffy machine started up and doing my very best to turn it off and center myself in the here and now. Coming to center even a few times during each day can bring about tremendous peace and abundant blessings.

Eckhart Tolle teaches us to become the observer of our own ego and how it tries to manipulate every moment with thoughts, distractions, and a whole bunch of negative self-talk. I started “sh”ing my negative thoughts, quieting my mind and breathing, breathing, breathing.

I knew I couldn’t go back to the limited facets of my old life and I became increasingly excited about the possibilities before me.

Whenever you start guiding yourself by caring about how you feel, you start guiding yourself back into your Stream of Source Entergy, and that’s where your clarity is; that’s where your joy is; that’s where your flexibility is; that’s where your balance is; that’s where your good ideas come from. That’s where all the good stuff is accessed from.”

– Abraham-Hicks

Walk with me as we practice the blessing of Discovering The Present You and we will co-create DELICIOUS, RADIENT, JOYFUL, ABUNDANT, FREE and EASY lives!!

The Masters Teach Us …

The masters teach us that by simply focusing in on the present moment, in on feeling good – everything that we desire will manifest in our lives. I have been witness to just that so many times over the past year.

On Mindfulness and Sailing